Christians often apply the term “unequally yoked” to marriages between believers and unbelievers, and many believe these marriages should be avoided at all costs. I think the warning is a mark of fundamentalism, where holding on to certain beliefs is so highly valued that it becomes ultimately important to guard against being swayed from them.
But people can hold a lot in common apart from their religious beliefs. And sometimes people change or expand their beliefs in ways which allow for greater compatibility. Could a marriage then be considered “equally yoked,” despite differences in religious beliefs, while allowing both partners to grow in positive ways? I prefer to look at it that way rather than accepting a paradigm imposed by others.
This page is intended to gather links about the role of religious belief in marriage. I have provided a few links below with brief annotations. I am hoping the list will grow over time. Please email me if you have comments or a link to add.
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DagoodS provides a detailed look at how the deconversion process can play out in a marriage.
HeIsSailing provides an interview between his marriage of an agnostic and a Catholic here.
Lorena gives her take on the “unequal yoke” label.
Tristan relates how his future wife was a catalyst for him to examine his faith.
The Woeful Budgie relates a poignant conversation with her husband about their differing religious beliefs in evacuating the elephant.